It’s been a couple of years and your little one is thriving and developing beautifully. He or she is walking strong now, and they're learning new words every day. The doctor says that they are healthy and growing wonderfully; but unfortunately… their hair is not. You’ve asked the doctor about it, and she’s said that it’s fine; but you can’t help but to notice other little ones your child’s age who have hair for days.
Your child’s hair seems perpetually dry and the growth seems stunted. You feel like you’ve tried everything, but to no avail. Your child’s hair just will… not… grow.
The truth is, your little one’s hair is growing. The problem is that they are just not retaining any of that length. Here are two possible reasons why, and a few African American hair growth tips to help you fix it.
Reason #1: You don’t realize when or how she’s losing the most hair.
It could be when you’re detangling, or when you allow them to let their hair be "free"; but if you’re not seeing growth, there is a point when he or she is losing a huge chunk of the hair they've grown.
Hair sheds naturally. On average, you and your little one will shed between 100 and 150 hairs per day; but if you’re seeing a comb full of hair after detangling, you may have a bit of a problem.
Here’s what you can do about it:
If you’re seeing a ton of hair in your comb or in your hand after detangling your little one’s hair, you’re either detangling improperly, or you need to do a close inspection of the ends of your child’s hair. If your child’s ends are split, put down that “End Mender Hair Cream” that claims to heal split ends, and grab a pair of scissors.
It may seem counterproductive to trim when you’re attempting to get hair to grow, but if your child’s ends are split, they need to be removed. Don’t believe the hype when it comes to hair creams or oils that claim to repair ends. Once an end is split, it’s split, and it needs to be trimmed before it travels up the hair shaft.
If your child is at least one and you haven’t started doing any deep conditioning on her hair, that could be another huge route to your problem. Deep conditioning will become one of your most important parts of your child’s hair care regimen. Hair will not grow properly without moisture; and that moisture will only come from water and regular deep conditioning treatments.
Another tip – if you’re allowing your child to wear her hair out and “free” for extended periods of time – even allowing her to sleep with her hair unsecured, (on a cotton pillowcase no less. Eeek!) that could be the route of all of your problems.
Textured hair gets tangles and knots fast. Allowing your daughter to wear a twistout to bed, without retwisting it at night can be a recipe for disaster. Secure hair every night. If she wore a poof during the day, twist or braid the poof at night and secure with a satin scarf and/or have her lay on a pillow with a satin pillowcase.
Reason #2: You haven’t accepted that your current routine just isn’t working.
You feel like you’ve done it all. You keep her hair in protective styles, you moisturize regularly, she’s wearing a satin cap to bed, but you’re STILL not seeing any results. What gives?!
It may be time for you to accept that your routine just isn’t working. If you haven’t seen any noticeable growth in your little one’s hair for 2 to 3 months it’s time to take some serious stock in your daily routine. (The problem may even be that you don’t have a daily routine.)
Here’s what you can do about it:
Here are a few questions you need to ask yourself: Are you really handling your little one’s delicate strands properly? Are you finger detangling gently with hair damp and soft from conditioner; or are you ripping a comb through her dry hair strands daily? Are you putting your little one’s hair in protective styles regularly and keeping them in long enough for them to be effective; or are you allowing your child’s hair to be “free” just a little too often?
Really take a look at your daily routine. Even if your little one has her hair in a protective style, there still needs to be some moisturizing and sealing taking place on the regular.
If what you’re doing isn’t working (or if you just realized you’re not doing enough) make the decision today to change things up. You’ll be surprised at the results.